Content note: Includes discussion of alcohol addiction.
Every story has a turning point. For Tina, loving Adam meant learning the difference between fixing and faithfully showing up. In this conversation, we talk about the season when alcohol felt like a blanket for his pain, the boundaries that kept Tina from losing herself, and the day Adam decided to break the chains for good. We also talk about parenting through guilt, why recovery is not one-size-fits-all, and how joy returns—slowly, daily, together.
What we cover
“Not losing me”: the boundaries that made staying possible
When support isn’t AA: finding your path (faith, community, movement, therapy)
Talking with kids about the hard years without shame
Partners’ trauma & triggers (and healing your own nervous system)
The line between “I don’t want to live” and “I don’t want to live like this”
Rebuilding money, trust, and ordinary joy
Show notes
00:00 Cold open: “It’s okay not to be okay…”
01:20 Meet Tina & why this conversation matters
03:30 The love story (and the first red flags)
05:55 “Unpredictable weather”: what living with addiction felt like
08:40 Trying to lead by example—and why it backfired
12:10 Triggers, safety, and setting real boundaries
17:20 The turning point: prayer, “Chainbreaker,” and choosing life
20:30 Early sobriety at home: money, peace, presence
24:00 Parenting through guilt; making room for both gratitude and ache
28:10 What she’d do differently; therapy for the partner
31:00 “Find your thing”: AA, faith, movement, community (Kava)
35:15 The boundary that held: love and consequences
40:10 From storm to rainbow: family now
44:10 Tina’s message to partners who want to stay
45:30 Hope, defined
Special Guest: Tina Marie Hamby — IG/FB: @TinaHambyMUA (hair/makeup & wedding officiant)
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xo, Danielle
